How To Stop Bullying Yourself By Changing Your Mental Mantra

The other day while I was walking I suddenly realised that for the whole journey I had been really horrible to myself.   If anyone were able to record my internal mental chatter, they would have heard me telling myself I wasn’t good enough and putting myself down. You name it, I had decided it was wrong with me that day!  In short I was nagging myself to bits! What a bully!

The branch of compassion that I so abundantly extend to others was at that time cut off from my own need for understanding.  Thankfully due to my conscious living techniques  I eventually had enough discernment to see how cruel I was being to myself.  I then mentally stepped back and started to fill my consciousness with kindness.  I remembered all the positive things about myself and managed to hush my inner critic with love.

Awareness is always the key to change.  By becoming the silent observer of our minds, and more present by making deep conscious breaths, we, at least, have a chance to tame our over-active minds.

A mantra has the power to change the world

A mantra is something you say many times.  Yogic chants are mantras with positive vibrations, so are prayers and uplifting, positive songs.  The repetitive negative mental chatter in our heads is also a mantra, and left unchecked can become destructive.

With this in mind, we really should become the guardians of our thoughts.

‘When you’ve seen beyond yourself, then you may find, peace of mind is waiting there.’ George Harrison

Here are my top three mantras/ methods to help tame the need to over think.

Next time you realise you have been bullying yourself try this meditation…

I am love mantra meditation 

It’s easy, just repeat mentally: I am love  I am love.

If at home you can even say it out loud.

Think it to yourself as you walk down the street.

Do it every time you forget your divinity.

Dedicate a time daily to reminding yourself this.

When those negative thoughts pop up don’t squash them but instead, replace them with love.

Om mantra meditation- to help feel more connected to the universe and less in the head.

Om is the primal sound of the universe.

 Om contains all sounds.

So when you chant it, you connect to the divinity within.

Chanting is good for our expression and balancing our throat chakra.  If out of balance we either don’t listen and talk too much or don’t talk enough.  A neutral balanced throat chakra helps us feel more present and less likely to criticise.  Chanting is a good way to meditate for those people who find it hard to sit still.

Sitting up straight, closing the eyes and chant OM.  Trying to inhale fully and as you chant exhale.  Make sure you make the whole of the sound, e.g., don’t forget to sound the M too. Try it for 5- 30 minutes.

Trick your ego

Another thing you can do is to trick your ego by changing a few words in any negative affirmations you have into a positive one.  So for example if you walk along the road thinking to yourself  ‘I am stupid,’ instead, say ‘I am not stupid.’  Or instead of saying ‘things never work out for me, change it to ‘things work out for me.’

A small shift in perspective can have big effects.

  Ego creates the illusion of separation from love.

To accept ourselves as we are means to value our imperfections as much as our perfections. 

So remember next time you find yourself bullying yourself remember to change negative affirmations for positive ones.  Try repeating mentally the words  ‘I am love’ and also fitting in meditation or a mantra into your day.